This next bit of the blog is what people think about Zena;-) . I keep adding to it as they give me there views.
MUSCLE VIEWS ON ZENA
Zena asked me to write something about What Muscle thinks about Zena... well... I told her in just simple words: I like all and don't like nothing. lol
Ouch sure it's not enough so I think to have to explain my words a bit more.
My life here is quite simple.
First thing I do is to close IMs and messages from groups I received, only to do a bit of order on the screen.
Second thing is to look if Zena is online too. .....Yep.
This explains a lot... have to add smth more? Lol
Ladies and gentlemen stop your "yes please"... I will.
I will do it starting from long time ago,to be exact from the beginning.
I love to talk with people, IM me and I will have hours of chatting moments with people.You would always find me in great places, especially waterfalls.
I met her dancing at SOTB, what surprised me was her way she talked to me, Free, Happy and Proud. I think I loved her since our very first date.
We never spent so much time together. Too busy searching for something, even if I really don't know what that was.
But a lot of times we talked about things, about what we like and what we think about the world and what it contains.
A lot in common, she's great, I love my time with her, and so on... so this new adventure, our partnership.
Damn i'm smiling again... so good.
And now... all time together. Lot of things to do together, never a boring moment.
Ohhh yeah... I love to talk with her, like she calls it having a chit chat... yeah it's great.
But not only.................
I like to have fun with her, dancing and discovering new places... yeah...
but not only.........
I love to build something new with her, looking her to change her clothes, doing shopping together, looking at the sunshine, laughing together, learning some new weird english words... yeah all is great.
But not only.........
Thinking more about what I really love about Zena... makes me smile. This lifts my mood so much I can't forget all time we passed together in this weird world. And it makes me think again.All is nice, all is great, indeed.
but there's a lot more........
There's a person behind all this. A great woman who knows what to say and what to do in the exact moment I need to hear it. And in the best possible way too.
I started to use SL like a game, thinking to do my businesses with tattoo and tshirts and nothing more.
Then adding a bit of new discoveries in all places here.
Then losing myself with a lot of friends, talking and dancing together for hours, finding new cultures from all around the world.
Some high moments, some bad moments,happiness and sadness like in real world, with real people.
Then theres Zena........ That's all, I mean she's all. She's all I need.
Muscle views on Zena... how can you explain fantastic things you feel in your life...
Waking up in a sunny holiday morning. Smelling coffee just done, the perfume of clean clothes. The wind running over a grain fields.
A smile and your mood lifts. This is Zena for me. And i am a lucky man.
All days together she gives me a reason to think the world is a great place to live.
About which world i am talking? Ladies... gentlemen.... all of them, obviously...
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SUZI VIEWS ON ZENA
Suzi's thoughts on Zena
When Zena first asked me if I would write a few lines on my thoughts of her, my immediate reaction to myself was "Yikes, what if I write something which could offend her". But afterwards I remembered.... this is a close friend who has shared with me a great deal of ups and downs, hers and mine. Friendships run much deeper than a mere falling out over some words. So it is with some sense of honor that I am writing about my close friend, Zena.
As Zena pointed out, we met at the bubblegum club very early on in our SL days (Zena joined SL the day before me back in July). At first she was quite quiet...hardly saying much in open chat to the wider audience. I found out she was English and had done the opposite of what had happened to me.... she moved south from Yorkshire while I had moved there from London. We started talking in IM (which I incidentally am more comfortable with). I immediately sensed there was some common ground with our friendship and us started.
The proof of our friendship (if proof was ever needed) was one night at Bubblegum (August I think it was...so still early days for both of us). There was an event, which both Zena and myself decided we would go to...it was actually a wedding night (brides and grooms). Zena and I, dressed in our meringues, then went off to Bubbles. But every time I entered the club I would crash (SL at its best!). I tried to get into the club 6 times in total but no luck! The best I could do was stand just outside and watch everyone else have a good time.... a very sad time for me. Usually people would feel sorry for someone in that situation but still carry on dancing with the main crowd...and I wouldn't blame them! But not Zena...she sacrificed her own enjoyment to come over to me and danced with me the rest of the evening. I don't think I ever told her how much that meant to me.... the feeling of true friendship had almost moved me to tears. You see it’s those small acts, which make and strengthen friendships. And in the sea of sharks that SL can sometimes be, true friends are a rare breed.
Zena has always been there for me when things don't go according to plan. We share each other's shoulder...sometimes I feel I use hers more than the other way around! But that’s what friends are for...sharing good AND bad, helping each other. The good times comes in a number of guises. One infamous night at Blackhearts where we both just went crazy! I was literally on the floor, my sides sore with laughter as we exchanged all manner of adornments.... handlebar, hairdos, angel dust, furry animals, rave sticks, even a huge joint! You name it...we wore it! The club patrons must have thought they had a couple of escaped lunatics in their midst. But it was only two ordinary English girls out for a bit of harmless fun.
Now Zena has settled down a bit (as have I) and found her love match. Her soul mate dare I say? She partnered Muscle some time ago and when that happened I was both happy and sad. Happy for obvious reasons...she had met someone in whom she loved (and who loved her equally in return) and everyone smiles when that happens to two special people. But sad in a way because more often than not (and this is not a criticism) friendships sometimes fall by the wayside when two people fall in love. But not our Zena! Our friendship has grown even stronger since she and Muscle got together. Muscle himself could be partly to thank for that...he is a genuinely kind, witty and (and I know I can say this) very hunky guy! I wish them both happiness and may their relationship bloom with every day that passes.
So these are just a few words from one close friend to another. I could go on and on and give you lots of stories about the Zena and Suzi road show. Maybe for another day I will. One thing I would like to add and that is anybody reading this who doesn't really know what SL is all about.... give it time and maybe you'll meet someone who’s friendship and company you would treasure and hope to keep. I did and I thank Zena for that immensely.
A true friend, Suzi
People on Zena
FRIENDS OF THE SAME SEX
What I have found on SL is I have more Male friends then Female. I don't know why this is , puzzles me sometimes. In RL its the opposite way and I like to spend time with my girlfriends The Girl friends I got are great and couldn't live with out them in SL. Speaking to other male friends on here they to have more opposite sex friends .
why is this?
Is this because we see the same sex as competition , part of me thinks this.Not me I like talking to everyone but i do find it hard to strike up a conversation with woman sometimes.
Do we like the flattery what we receive from men?
well all women do , you know you are going to get all the flattery you need in SL fill your ego right up lol
Talking to opposite sex?
you may find you talk to these more because you don't in RL act out what you would like to be in RL. Because you are more confident in SL you may find it easier to talk with them. I may be barking up the wrong tree with that thought .
what I have found is that if you spend time in the same group more of the same gender talk to you, it could be that they get to know the character you are. I think its a question that will puzzle me for a while. if I get an answer I will tell all
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Flirty friends
You meet people on SL you know they are flirting with other people not just you. You resign to the fact that when you are together at that point in time,SL world is about just you two at that point in time. You flirt a little dream a little nothing to serious just making each other feel a bit special lighting your mood and entertaining each other.
You never talk about another male to them. I think this is because you want to make them feel special when you are spending time with them. If you do talk about another male it always tends to be a “friend said”. . I find this really funny as in RL you tend to always call people by the names. I think its because you don’t want to hurt there feelings, you want to make out they are the most important thing in SL. When me and muscle got together as a couple I knew who I could tell about our relationship but I also knew who I would have to say goodbye to. I did a coward thing on some of my male friends, I just stayed hidden for a while and then just disappeared...maybe I just didn’t want to burst there bubble . They had an illusion and I wanted them to keep it. I also didn’t want to hurt them, as time goes on in SL you grow fond of personalities , I know we flirt but I just thought it was harmless fun . nothing to serious, so why did I find myself being a coward? . Even when me and Irish was not speaking after an argument I was in the arms of muscle I still couldn’t be honest . I just couldn’t hurt anyone. Now don’t get me wrong you think im a big softy , In real life I'm a straight talker , I say what I feel draw a line under it and move on No dwelling on anything never have regrets live life for today because tomorrow never comes . SL tends to bring out your inner soul , makes you think more and feel more sometimes, sends you to madness puts you throw hell . So why do we act different on SL ? Puzzles me sometimes maybe it’s a character you wish to be in RL, may be you are like this in RL but you put so many defences up that nobody can break them down. But because SL is only a game (you think when you get on it) your defences are already down.
In SL You meet a person for a few hours and you become friends, 9/ 10 its all ways quick friendships . In Rl it doesn’t always happen this way ,you tend to find friendships are more built on foundations . I think SL speeds up the process of friendships. You can have a roller coaster of a ride with friends on SL, but you have really only met them a week before, you don’t really know who they are but yet you let yourself hop on the ride no seat belt and run the risk. The other thing that is strange , in real life when you spend time with friends you don't talk for 6-8 hours you entertain your self with other things , on SL when you are with friends you talk all the time.
Muscles and Zena's Friendship grew , if you ask Muscle he would probably say it wasn’t a quick thing, yes they had made an impression on each other the first time they met. The friendship grew in the weeks that lay a head, the meets the chit chat made them grow more fond of each other. I think they talked more to the person behind the screen. I found that my feelings for muscle was deeper then any friend I had met on here. I know what ever happens I have a friend for life. We will always be together.
I now find I talk about me and Muscle more to friends , I always but a "WE" , when I meet new people I always mention that I have a partner, just so there expectations are not built up on , no false dreams are made so no hurt can take place.
I find I am now with Muscle most of my SL life when we are both logged on . We talk build and have a laugh and he"s all what I need in anything .Seems strange but we have not really been apart a single night since we got together as one. Two popular people who loved being the life and soul of party's, loved talking to different personality's have found solace in each others arms . This relationship has made think about past friendships with males I have lost, they are really insignificant relationships compared to our love for each other. Our feelings grows everyday. You may think impossible and crazy , "hell I do" but until you have this you will never understand, I cant write down how much apart of my life Muscle is . Hes my sunrise when I get up makes me walk on air all day, my dreams when I go to bed.
TRUE FRIENDS ON SL
As I went on my journey I realise that you have different friends on SL, when you first come on you befriend everyone I had up to 50 on my friends list and trying to talk to them all was murder. I didn’t even know who some of them were, I gave my friendship out to easily, this was soon to changes. You realise its not quantity but quality as in RL, as my personality changed so did my selection of friends. It all depends what you are on SL for, like I said at the beginning most want to get you naked and because you are just an AV you experiment just like in Rl growing up. I soon quickly learned that this wasn’t really my thing. Lost interest in that and got bored. As I wondered throw SL I went to a couple of clubs and found my first home SOTB, it made me have a sense of belonging and the people on in where great. The more you go in to the same places, you get to know various personalities of different AVs and they become friends. I like talking in open chat to various people, talking about stupid stuff and just being carefree. So now I have a close friends list and ones I love spending time with and talking to I chat about bits in RL to them,
Some of the Friends I have in SL
WINNETOU – well what can I say about him, only one word springs to mind gentleman yep that’s what I said a true gent. I met him one Sunday afternoon while shaking my butt in SOTB. Had a dance with him and chitchat with him and zero (I met him at the sometime) it was a good crack and a laugh. A warm guy I feel I can chat about anything, hes staight talking but not rude with it, he is my dance bud in BH, you will find if ones in there the other is not far behind like tweedle de and tweedle dumb. He helps me when i'm stuck on things in SL and that’s most of the time. He’s also probably seen the most changes in me from the way I look to my views on SL.
Suzi - A wonderful person. She is a person I can have a girly girly chat on SL with. A truly great person who I share my highs and lows to. My SL secrets in fact everything. I met Suzi at a place called Bubblegum. Great music but the best thing to come from there was our friendship. She picks my mood up when I am low, hits me over the head and makes me see sense when i’m talking crap. SO SUZI THANKYOU FOR KEEPING ME ON THE STRAIGHT AND NARROW, You make me keep my head when all around me are loosing there. We share each others shoulders and I will always be there if she needs me.
Raul – One of the first people on here I met, the original Italian Stallion no woman is safe, makes me laugh so much our meets are usually on a Sunday I love our Sunday morn chit chats about life. He is a great person full of life a real cheeky and a crazy one to He knows my free sprit side and share a lot of the same views
ZERO – He is a funny funny person , crazy . Have a laugh with him also helped me in trying out making my own clothes, always great to see and spend time with .
A little bit on Muscle meets with Zena
On paper they are not meant to be together. Chalk and cheese. Muscle being Dark and Zena being a Girly Girl. But yet Personality’ wise and behind SL they are like peas in pod. Both searching for something but not sure what it was. The meet was to change the path of 2 lives forever on SL.
All great stories always have a beginning, middle and a end( all the ending you will get to this story is they lived happily ever after), even fairy tales if this is a fairy tale then wow it would knock socks off Cinderella
Zenas personality at the time......
When I first met muscle, I was still finding my feet on Sl. I would Change my personality to who ever I spoke to. I was still trying to find the person I wanted to be on Sl, as in all great games, you need a character, whether it be good or bad I had yet to surface…. Lets say if my personality was a pie, Split the pie up in to 12 pieces, every time I would meet someone new, I would test there taste buds, take the slice of the pie I required, turn in to a character they would love or needed.. I never wanted to mix RL and SL. My different personalities I created protected me from getting to involved with SL not showing the real me meant that I was some what protected from anything. I could never understand a person getting sucked in to something that is not real, now I understand. It hit me like a sledgehammer slowly and surly my own personality took over Zena, I felt everything she felt highs, lows, tears and heartbreak.
1ST Meet with Muscle
When we met in SOTB, we became acquaintance, he spoke to me first as he noticed a AV with bright pink hair, me being me spoke to anyone. We talked about a lot of crap really, he showed me a round the place. What I did notice is that he was a laugh and made me laugh, the conversation just flowed never any silence. Acted out a love scene must say it was great no cheap porn film for us. lol. we knew what we both were on here for just to have fun meet new people. We knew that SL was a sort of show. We offered friendship and we both accepted.
The IMs
Week would go by and we would say hello on Ims , have a bit of a chit chat make each other laugh , if we was busy with other friends we would say it and leave each other in silence to get on with the show of SL.
The meetings
We would meet up if we was quiet on the friends front, as we meet more we realised that we had more and more in common, We would bring a little of RL in to SL each time, talk about our likes and dislikes. He always lifted my mood and made me feel special, this is Muscles gift. I could understand why he is so popular. I found myself looking forward to our chats. But wait a min SL is not real (I shuck my head and banged it against a wall). Why was I thinking of an AV as a person. I found him drifting in to my thoughts and a smile on my face when he logged on. I thought I was going a bit crazy. I had committed cardinal sin; I had crossed RL feelings in to SL. This wasn't why I had come on to here I remember one meet and I think this was one that sealed our relationship, he gone to meet a friend who was leaving SL. He was so sad his mood was so low. All I wanted to do this hug him and talks to him to lift his sprit don’t like to see him down. Always want him shining like the North Star on a clear night.
Bit of journey of Zena
As me and Muscle didn’t see each other much on SL just a chit chat here and there. Our life’s where separated for an amount of time. This is a bit of what happened on my journey after our first in counter. This is just a story that some people may be able to relate to a little, I think it only adds to your character and just like growing up in RL you got to "give a little, loose a little and let your poor heart break a little"
I found I was starting to spend more and more time in SL it had become a hobby, my personality and I had started to get more and more in to SL. This is when I met another one close to my heart but was to have a devastation affect (good and bad) on my SL life. I will call him Irish. I met him on SOTB. Cocky, confident cheeky man who really knew how to flirt with the ladies with the usual banter (Anyone who knows me, knows that cheese sweet talking doesn’t really work). I showed him a round SOTB and we tried some pose balls out, I left in a hurry as RL called just disappeared. Next time I was on he was there again. We talked a bit more fooled around nothing special really just a couple of actors putting on another show. We passed friendship to each other and went on my way. We would talk on Ims and sometimes meet up. As time went on we started to spend a lot of time together, weeks would go by and I found we was with each other all the time. I had a soft spot for him that grew. I know his feeling towards me also grew. But SL can destroy friendships as quick as it creates them. Because we were spending a lot of time together I lost some friends along the way I suppose you just out grow people, but never lost Muscles. Always said hello etc have a quick chat or a meet up. Irish used to explore and love finding new places he liked to impress me and never failed; every time he found somewhere new he would take me show me around. It was when I was with Irish that Zena had a bit of a lobotomy. Her personality was found and the whole skin hair change took place like a butterfly coming out of her chrysalis. What I had done with out realising is brought a lot of my own personality in to SL. The problem I found with the relationship with Irish was I felt suffocated it became very heated at times as she felt owned, arguments always happened and upset took place but yet I couldn’t let Irish go, the relationship was one giant roller coaster, Zena being Zena wanted to find out what happened next. Reflecting back now it should have ended before it even begun this would have stopped the weeks of turmoil for both of us. I loved the way we would speak together and laugh so much, being like a couple of kids and acting stupid. I felt Irish wanted me 24/7 , he had jealous streak and found he read in to my words too much, I found myself explaining my self more and more . He wanted to talk about life in RL, I found my self trying to push away and keep distance from him If I had a crap day in RL I wanted to leave it at the door of SL and just have fun .(This is what I believe sl is all about)
I never asked questions about RL I found myself trying to please everybody giving them what I thought they wanted and forgot what I was there in the first place for. Intimacy never happened after the body change, if anything started then something would go wrong. To me this was a sign and one I should have read loudly, Once a week an argument would erupt and looking back I have to say it was partly my fault if I had been honest and told him what I felt then non of the heartbreak would have happened I just tried to make him happy and forgot about me. At this point Muscle came in to my life again more and more I found myself running away from friends to spend time with him, muscle was coming part of my life and i liked it.
Maybe now I was trying to find me again as the whole relationship with Irish was turning sour. Throw no fault of his own, it was just not meant to be, deep down I knew this and so did he, letting go was the hardest thing I luved him very much as a friend but I know it couldn't have been anything more I never wanted to hurt him and I just kept making peace with him to make him happy.
This is one of my well learnt lessons on SL, as in RL growing up you learn from mistakes it what builds you in to the person you are today,as you go throw SL from the start you will most probably change your views ,personality etc . Try to remember... you can't please everybody or make everybody happy, Just be your true self and people will like you and respect you more.Honesty is the best policy, giving everybody else happiness and forgetting about yourself is the wrong path to go, it will only give out the wrong signals and lead to bad vibes.If you feel that it is more intense then you thought then step away from SL.Take a while to reflect on why you came on SL in the first place. You only text talk to people on SL, they will read it how they want to read it beware of this as it could land you in hot water.
PROFILE CHANGE
A WORK TO THE WISE ABOUT YOUR PROFILE.... I got fed up of a paticular men on SL. Let me stress not all men on SL. I had to change my profile because i got fed up with men on SL wanting one thing. Dont get me wrong if you in to this then great but im not .Just when you think 'hey he's cool' he takes you to a place to get naked lol . I changed my profile for a reason. Im glad I changed it as I know only get sincere people talking to me (most of the time). Best thing I did. I dont mind a flirt but thats as far as it goes ,it gets monotonous saying no no no no lol. So ladys get your profile filled in , people are not psychic and what they are on for maybe not what you are on here for.
WHOLE NEW ME
I wanted to change me again , so I went on the hunt for a new skin , new hair and the rest. This introduced me to the wonderful world of Shopping on SL .AHHHHHHHHHHHH shopping hehe. I wish i hadn't started because I can honestly say I think I have a problem now lol. If I'm not Dancing or with my Partner I'm shopping. People have created great things on here and I love to look and buy.My new skin and hair came first . Tried loads on but never felt comfy until the one I have got . Hair the same I retired from the pink and went blond . Yep I'm now the original Blond Bomb shell. My friends got a bit of a shock when they saw the new me but realised its just a skin and a hair do same old Zena inside. So what else ...... whole new wardrobe... The freebie stuff are ok but the quality of the things in the shop is totally different . And me being me needed it all. What I will say is look for bargains. I tend to stay away from the big complex and look at smaller shops. I have realised that good clothes in SL don't have to cost the earth. I find I buy clothes to suit my personality. Just like the RL you look for something that suits you. What I love about SL is that you can be anything or wear anything and no one bats an eye lid. I like to Dress up one min a Fairy next a Cow girl. I love my clothes on SL and you will often see me change. That the crazy side of me. Like to make people laugh with what I wear and love to shock as well.
SOTB CLUB CHANGED TO FUN BEACH
This was one of my first clubs I went to. It mapped out my future on SL this is what I am most thankful for . I met my friends here and my SL partner ( more about him later) Sadly the club had to close but I am still in contact with friends now. This place was great to explore a lot of secret places . As you can see from pic, that's me with pink hair having a chill out after a goodnight.I like to be part of a group it was great. This is when I begun more to get in to SL talking to different personality's from around the world people just not wanting you as a play thing but liked the personality behind the AV . I was a free spirt and a bit of a crazy chick , Sunny was my first person I met in here was great but as time went on we differed apart and now we are like ships in a night. I found that some men on here wanted to own you. Sounds strange but jealousy sometimes takes over people in here just like real life. I am a free spirt and I found that if people was like that with me then I tend to run the opposite way. I loved talking to all kinds of people , I love to make people smile and laugh I was or should I say still am a wild child at heart. Winnetou I also met in here , he is a great friend and someone i can just ramble on to he helped me sort my dances out. (I love to dance in SL ). Zero another friend I met at the same time he also helps me and one of my friends. Virt - sadly not in my group of friends no more but made me laugh so much and great to explore with.
EARLY DAYS
OK this was me after a few days of being on SL. You an see the pink hair . Also Lady's what you realise fast his you have your lady bits missing . You need to make sure you go shopping for these ( Men you will have to do the same if you look down all is not there) this is a complete eye operner everything you can do in RL you can do in SL. Me being me didnt realise this until i got in a few sticky situations and a few places where well let me just say i had to turn my head to the side to work out just what I was doing hehe .MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT THE POSE BALLS DO!
BIT ABOUT MY BLOG
You will find that I ramble, may not make sence all the time. Jump from one subject to the other. Hey thats just me. I have so much to write so forgive me if its a little scrambled. I just want to share some of my feelings on SL the people I meet and the places I go. SL is a life in it self and worth the roller coaster ride. I hope you find it all intresting as I have done so far . Happy reading and enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE BEGINNING
Why did i go on sl? I heard about SL on Tv and was very intrigued .Me and my Friend sat up one night to create Zena .. and so she was born 20/07/2007. Like Frankenstein and his Creation Zena rose from the ashes and descended on Second Life.
Now let me tell you your first creation is a very funny one, and one you wont to remember.The first time we logged in I met a friend who is still around today , Raul can tell you what I looked like. The pink panther had nothing on me. I was pink from the top of my head to the tip of my toe. Sorry peeps no pics of that I'm glad to say its one memory I wish to delete from my SL life. Zena was soon took over by just me. I changed her skin to become human but kept my pink hair people who know me on SL will always remember my pink hair. Could never miss me I was like an atomic bomb landing on each individual Sim.
